Before posting messages in these forums, you really need to read this page. If you don't understand the rules, you may find that your messages are edited or deleted!

By entering our discussions, you agree to abide by these rules and our interpretation of them. The details are outlined below (and you should read them all), but the golden rule is:

Be Polite!

In essence, that's all there is to it. We respect each other. We don't insult people, we don't antagonize people, we don't swear or otherwise offend people. If you think this sounds too restrictive, you probably won't like it here and you should consider leaving now!

  • Any messages which (in our opinion) aren't suitable will be edited or deleted.
  • Any visitors who continually disregard these rules may be partially or completely banned.
Your Health Considerations
  • Do NOT try to diagnose yourself!
  • Seek the services of a reputable doctor for all medical considerations and decisions.
  • No one at this forum is a doctor. 
  • No one at this forum and web site is qualified to offer medical advice. 
  • No information on this site can be deemed reliable.
  • Folks, there are a lot of strange, mean spirited people lurking on the internet.  I do not read, review, or approve all the messages left here.  I set the forum up as a way for patients to exchange information but there is no guarantee the people here are even patients.  They come from countries all over the world and all walks of life.
  • I am not responsible in any way for medical decisions, treatments, or conditions caused by surgery or lack there of.
  • If you think you have a Parotid Tumor or other medical problem, see a doctor.
  • I am not a Doctor.  I'm a patient.

Dwight Shelato, Site Administrator


General Guidelines

Names, Nom de Plumes & E-Mail

In general, messages can be posted freely by anyone, using any name or alias. Obviously this excludes deliberate fraud such as impersonating someone else. If you would like to reserve a name for yourself, you'll need to prepare a profile. Providing an e-mail address is optional.

Discussion Topics

Discussions can cover any range of topics regarding Parotid Tumors, Treatments and Patient Experiences which may be of interest to our visitors. The focus is clearly on Parotid Tumors, but it doesn't hurt to digress and make small talk from time to time. Please don't get too carried away though.

At any time we may declare a particular topic closed. Any further messages on this topic will be deleted. The topic may be re-opened at a later date.

Questions and Complaints

If you see anything which you feel is inappropriate in our forums, please email me at  immediately. In the case of serious complaints (such as fraud, slander, etc), we are prepared to track down and identify users of our forums.

If you would like to know why your message has been edited or deleted contact me. Except in very unusual circumstances we do not discuss editing decisions publicly.

Censorship and Moderation
This is a touchy subject but there's no doubt that a certain amount of discretion is required to make these forums enjoyable and productive for the maximum audience. Of course, there are also legal issues involved.

I  will edit or delete any message which, in our opinion, falls into any of the following categories:

  • Commercial Messages
  • Bulk Messages
  • Offensive, Insulting or Slanderous Messages
  • Fraudulent Messages
  • Accusations of Illegal or Improper Conduct
  • Disclosing Personal Details Without Consent
  • Annoying Messages and "Trolling"

I do not Moderate the forum.  In other words I do not read and approve the messages before they are posted.  In fact, I don't read all the messages.

Banning Users
In some cases I may elect to impose restrictions on a user, which could include either of these scenarios:
  1. The user may read messages, but may only post messages subject to my approval.
  2. The user may read messages, but may not post messages at all.
  3. The user may read and post but the posts may not be sent out for everyone to see.
The Legal Stuff
The Patients Forum makes no assurances about the suitability of the content in this section. Naturally, the views expressed here are those of the respective authors and do not necessarily reflect the views of myself. I do not vouch for or warrant the accuracy, completeness or usefulness of any message, and are not responsible for the contents of any message.

You agree, through your use of this forum, that you will not use The Patients Forum to post any material which is knowingly false and/or defamatory, inaccurate, abusive, obscene, racist, hateful, harassing, sexually explicit, threatening, invasive of a person's privacy, or otherwise in violation of any law. You agree not to post any copyrighted material without the owner's consent. You remain solely responsible for the content of your messages, and you agree to indemnify and hold harmless The Patients Forum and myself with respect to any claim based upon transmission of your message(s).

Any person who feels that a posted message is objectionable should immediately contact me. Upon receipt of your complaint I will investigate and remove the offending message(s) within a reasonable time frame, if we determine that this action is warranted. Allow 1 week for an email response from Dwight Shelato.  If you do not receive a response in one week, email me again.

The Patients Forum reserves the right to edit or delete any message for any or no reason whatsoever.

In the event of a complaint or legal action arising from any message posted by you, The Patients Forum reserves the right to reveal your identity, your IP address(es), your Internet Service Provider(s) and any other relevant information regarding your messages.